Hi. I've been dating this guy for about three months now. Things are going really good. He's really nice to me and he seems like a really sweet guy. Your probably wondering, "If things are going so well then what is your problem?" Well, I have reason to believe that he is a player. He's really charming and he's had a lot of girlfriends before me. He also has some girls that are his friends. I'm not too alarmed about this tidbit of information because he rarely brings them up in conversation. I don't think you'd call that a red flag. Maybe a Yellow flag...an orange flag at best. But it's just little things like that. I don't know if he's the cheating type or not. It seems like every really good relationship I get into I feel like I'm going to get cheated on. Sometimes I do! So here I ask: What should I do? Should I stay in the relationship but watch him like a hawk? Should I pull out early so as to break his heart before mine? Or should I just shut up and trust him? Any advice?
You will never know, sometimes we have to take the risk.. There's no harm on trying and it feels good that the guy whose a bad boy before change in your hands.
Haha, these arent the type of people you ask your love life questions to... these are the type of people you ask for paypal help from... but anyhow... maybe you're just a really jealous person and don't know it? he could be completely faithful, but just relax... dont worry, be happy
Learn to trust him. But of course be aware of what he is doing but don't have your mind set that he will cheat because this type of attitude will turn your relationship sour.
"Haha, these arent the type of people you ask your love life questions to... these are the type of people you ask for paypal help from." Ya ur right. Idk y I thought this wud be a good idea. I think it was cuz I was jacked up on caffeine and it was 2:00 in the morning. I don't have anything to be proud of here....except that I had decent grammar even when I was like 3/4 asleep...1/4 wide awake. Not to mention I had just had a bad dream that my bf cheated with a really ugly girl I hate. Yah that's it.
-=- he he he .... doubt is a big problem for relationship .... When it come to life ... even the good turns bad and bad turn really bad -=- so when you have doubts clear it off instantly by making a polished conversation with him ...sometimes agreement makes better results than arguments .. keep it in mind -=-
Uh... well you stay together, if he cheats, you find out he's a player and not worthy of you and leave his ass so fast his head will spin, it's truly not worth worrying over cause if it happens, well then he wasn't meant for you anyway. Good luck.
Not sure why you came to ask a bunch of computer geeks for relationship advice - anyhow - Well if this seems to happen before, maybe its more you and not him?
Honestly that is a very hard situation you don't know if that person is honest and if really is trustworthy. I think the best thing is, don't fall too much to that guy and don't give everything to him, I know you know what I mean. Leave something for yourself, and I think it's not a little bad idea if you make some research about him right? The very last is, it is better if you will have an open forum with him. Ask him what bothers in your mind, and if you really love him you show him that you are really serious with him. If you found doubt in him, better put some spaces and think over it.^_^
ok, so you really like this guy and hope he likes you enough not to cheat on you, but if you keep doubting him all the time this will never get off the ground. just enjoy this and hope that it lasts. nobody can give you an answer, or live your life for you. so give up feeling so unsure, get out there and have some fun with this wonderful guy who will certainly feel more predisposed towards sticking with you if he feels you are giving off the right vibes.
That, unfortunately, shows that you have some insecurities for whatever reason. People like that can become hard work and clingy so be careful not to be the one to cause him to want to stray. If you knew he was a completely trustworthy and dependable guy then where would be the sense of risk and excitement in that? You'd probably get bored with someone who made you feel TOO comfortable.
This would of been great for a poll survey.You should REALLY get to know him,as you say he is charming and had a lot of girlfriends thats a warning sign already..ask him how long was his longest relationship.what went wrong and who broke up with who and ask his girl friends about his previous relationship and make sure that his so called girl friends aren't actual X's.Good Luck..its a crash and burn life
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He sounds fine - so he's had some girlfriends before - (I've no idea how many a lot is - depends on your age), and he has friends who are girls - that's a good sign, a man who can't be friends with girls is odd. But you sound completely paranoid. If you 'watch him like a hawk' he will, quite rightly, run a mile.
Christ! He sounds just like me!!! As said before just trust him but be aware as everyone is capable of doing bad things! Not me though.