How do you know you weren't being racist. I find that racists are not very good at making that judgment.
I agree with g36. Think before you say something that could be hurtful. It's a good way to order your life.
Not specifically racist, but I have said things that offended people, usually in the context of an intellectual discussion. As much I try to avoid hurting people's feelings and not saying things that are personally hurtful, I will say things are offensive to others, but, unfortunately for them and their sensibilities, are nonetheless reasonably true, and therefore worth saying. Yes, truth can be seen as relative, so, knowing that, I reserve judgment for those who treat their own personal truths as absolute and universal. People wallowing in self-pity, for one. People who believe that their victimhood gives them a free pass on what they do. People who act with a sense of entitlement that they don't extend to others. I will say things to them that are hurtful to them, and could reasonably appear prejudicial to them, but, to me, are realistic and valuable lessons to learn. I've accepted that I can be an asshole sometimes, so I make sure to treat people well enough on the whole to maintain an ultimately positive karmic equilibrium.
Well, I always mentally chuckle when I hear someone say something along the lines of: "I'm not racist, but..."
I make racist comments all the time but everyone around me know im joking. ive dated outside of my nationality for as long as i could remember. but i dont say anything really bad lol.
I think that it's our bad side when we have such racist mood in deed. I mean that historical roots and social predjudices led us to this condition when we hate each other instead of being oroginal, polite and kind. So I keep under control my emotions and had never been in such situation.