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possessiveness--( GOOD or BAD)...?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009.

  1. #1
    hi mates
    can u give ur ideas about possessiveness...?

    if its good no probs

    if its wrong ,, tell me a way to come out of dat:)
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  2. alex894

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    how do you spell that? and can you give me an example?
     
    alex894, Sep 22, 2009 IP
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    For me it's bad for a relationship to have a partner that is possessive.
     
    cool_78, Sep 22, 2009 IP
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    #4
    Well, possessiveness with a certain limit is good, but it could not steal the others identity. If you are too much possessive for your partner, start discussing your issue with him/her. This will make him/her understand about your concern.
     
    mindmaster, Sep 22, 2009 IP
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    Bad at all times. If you truly love someone you will enjoy watching them being free and doing things on their own.
     
    feroz97, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  6. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    #6
    i enjoy her being free,.. but not all the time...

    ok tell me a way out
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  7. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    we both disscusd about that...she is also possessive on me.
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009 IP
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    #8
    If both partners are possessive with each other, I think there won't be any problem with that lol..
     
    Clarisse, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  9. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    no thats the prob ...she dont like me talking to any girl and and me too like dat only....but she is coming out dat slowly..but i cud not
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  10. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    im aware of speaking with other girls in fornt of her .coz i dont do any thing that hurts her.... that y i want to come out of this possessiveness which will hurt her ..
     
    Last edited: Sep 22, 2009
    jagathdesigner, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  11. phpworks

    phpworks Member

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    Its one kind of disease,big problem, hard to overcome it.

    the person cant be reliable
    If its a child teach them the importance of freedom and joy of giving
     
    phpworks, Sep 22, 2009 IP
  12. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    ...................:-(.......................
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    #13
    I don't think this is true at all. For some people it is bad, but for others it can be a good thing.

    My long term partner and I are both incredibly possessive people; sometimes it can be difficult and make us sad; but then we talk, cuddle and we're fine again.

    It is really only a big problem when only one person is possessive, while the other is the opposite. (In my experience.)
     
    alexispetrov, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    #14
    bad. fo sho.
     
    phillipmarlow, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    keen4kash Well-Known Member

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    Depends who its towards and the situation like whether the other person finds it appealing or attractive

    Its ok to make a person feel safe and wanted by letting them know you care but if the other person does not want you to do it than its creepy like stalking

    So its not a great idea and is more of a reflection of the person doing it and their personality flaws like jealously and insecurity in yourself - if its like a relationship and it ends then possessiveness can lead to some really bad things

    You can get too focused and over obssessed and not many people would find that an appealing or attractive character trait
     
    keen4kash, Sep 23, 2009 IP
  16. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    #16
    i fought with her lot of time coz of being possessive...
    but soon we begun to chat..but these days im too crazy and possessive about her....

    no other way....i think time can answers me
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    #17

    thanks alexispetrov
    i had a simle when i read this...i think i like being posessive but have to change it for her coz it hurts her sometime
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    #18
    Dude this is YOUR relationship. You need to define and be very clear with your loved one on rules and boundaries. If you are both insecure and possessive then you will need to set rules in place that you can both stick to.

    These kind of situations are like holding a wet bar of soap. Squeeze too tight and the soap will shoot up in the air. Don't squeeze enough and it will fall through your finger tips.

    It is natural for humans to be territorial but you must remember trust is a very very important part of the relationship. Make sure you clearly establish your boundaries with your partner.
     
    StevieHawk, Sep 23, 2009 IP
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    #19
    When you love someone, you should trust him/her and need not be possessive.
     
    zealot777, Sep 23, 2009 IP
  20. jagathdesigner

    jagathdesigner Well-Known Member

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    #20
    thanks mates..i trust her.. and she trusts me...
    let us c
    but i feel she is ma world :)
     
    jagathdesigner, Sep 23, 2009 IP