What will you feel losing your love ones?

I lost quite a number of my love ones over the past 8 years, first was my uncle and his whole family died in a car crash on our religion's festive season. We was devastated and never celebrated it again until now and will be forever I guess. This was 5 years ago..I still remember waiting for my friends to visit me for an open house when we got a phone call, first saying my uncle was the only one died..we was in total sadness and tears..2 minutes later, we got another call saying that the whole family was involved and no one survived. It was a head-to-head car crash with a bus. All died on the spot. They was over 300km away, I remembered all of us crying along the journey.

The 2 years after that (3 years ago), I lost my grandfather, also through an accident. He was cycling home back from his work place when a car ramped into him. He was admitted in hospital and we got a call that he was in serious condition. He was also 300km away. My mom was driving back home with me, when I received a call that he passed away...told my mom and she cried so much, shouting while driving...he was her father.. I just couldn't forget my mom shouting in pain and sadness while driving..

Then came a huge loss...that changed my life forever...my dad passed away 5 months ago..he was a great man, we had a lot of arguements and didn't talk for the past 3 months before he passed away but I loved him more than anything else...He slept on 27th May 08 and didn't get up the next morning..he just died peacefully in sleep..Just like that, he left us..i didn't even had the chance to say sorry and hug him..i am regretting my whole life about this and in my prayers I will always says that I love him alot..he came to my dream and told me that it's ok and he loved me a lot too...since i lost my dad, i changed a lot..my soul is half gone..my life feels uncomplete..infact I am looking forward for my day to die because I want to see him again..i miss him a lot..too much and he is always in my mind, heart and soul..

My mom...she is the one suffered so much..first was her brother, then her father and now her husband..only God knows how she can live all this through..I love her so much and will do anything for her happiness..

This is my story, a story that I hope all of you will realise from what life really is...nothing..you can lose it anytime and you won't even have time to do anything about it..love everyone and show them your love..don't end up regretting like me..but i loved my dad a lot...i loved my uncle and grandfather alot too..life is short guys and girls..life live to the fullest, there is no guarantee that tomorrow you will be there or not, or maybe your love ones..
I am just 23 this year but life thought me a lot..i nearly lost mine in a horrible accident but now i know why....cse i need to take care of my mom..she is my life now..

Thank you for reading...a tribute to everyone that I lost and dearly missing..

 

my eyes got full of tears when i read this
i lost my grandfather 3 years ago and lost my dear dad 15 months ago
Rest in peace every one and your relative too

you know if a dead person come to your dreams ... i want to tell you that it's really them .
it's in our religion

 

i lost my uncle 3 months back and i cried like hell on hearing the news.......

 

i know exactly how you feel

 

Thank you and i pray your love ones will rest in peace too. We also believe in the dreams too.

I cried a lot too..

Thank you, but we must move on.

 

That's sad.. Me too, experienced of what you feel.. I really feel like i wanna die but the other part of my mind says that don't loose hope..

 

Had the same feelings too but life have to move on. Many of us concerntrate too much on money and luxury of life until we forget that we will die and nothing we can do about it.

 

I think its really sad to think that fact. I was always thinking I am lucky before we are complete and I personally don't have that much things to dwell like yours. But I guess its it. Maybe today we are complete and tomorrow we're not. I just cant imagine how am I going to face those things..

SK08IM, thanks for the heads up..

 

That's a very sad story. And lost of people who we love the most is so tragic, probably the biggest tragedy in our lives. We never think about it when we have them close, we are not realising that we can lose them. And that's good cause we couldn't live calm with such thoughts in our minds. But if we never had such thought it might be too late to realise what treasure we have. (I am not sure if you understand me..hmm)

 

My eyes become teary while reading this post. It's really hard to accept if some of your loved ones have passed away.

 

When my mother died my heart ached as if someone had driven a stake through it. It took years before I could look at her picture without crying. She has been dead over 30 years not and I still weep as I am typing this.

 

If my girl would leave me..I gonna end up with nothing..

 

I lost my grandfather 5 years ago and it was never the same again during family gatherings.

 

I understand well everything you have. We don't appreciate what we have and when we lose them, then we realise how empty life is without the people that we love.

It seems impossible to accept it..

Losing a mom really hurts and I understand what you felt and feeling now. After 30 years and you are still sad, it just never goes..but trust me, she is always with you..life is nothing, love is everything..

She won't leave you..love her as much as you can..

Things will never be the same again no matter how much you force it to be..just accept if you can and move on..

I was thinking the same too when I had everyone but I knew that they will leave or maybe I will leave them..the best thing to do is carry on, love them as much as you do...when they eventually leave, have a strong heart and tell yourself "I am going to be with them one day - when I die" and "they are not gone forever, I will meet them one day"..this are the 2 sentence I have been telling myself everyday..to continue living..