I don't know what to do. Everything is falling apart.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Phultu, Sep 22, 2008.

  1. #1
    Everything is falling apart! My dad hasn't been talkin to my mom for the past 2-3 weeks, so yesterday, my sister, my mom and me were discussin things etc.

    So, my dad walked in and said he wasn't talking to my mom because when my mom used to come back from work, she used to go on the computer (11AM) and chat. He thought it is not possible that a person gets only 3-4 hours of sleep in a day, so he thought my mom used to go to some other place during the day and well, you know what....

    So, last night, he has decided he's going to move to another city and seprate + divorce my mom. I just cannot believe what is happening :( The whole relationship between my mom and dad hasn't ever been LOVE. It's just been something they were forced to do in a way.

    This is a real stressful time for me and my sister, we both being 13, and 14-years old- it's a lot to take. We fukin saw our mom and dad shout at each other right in front of us!!

    I am not loooking for any sympathy or anything but this is a real hard time for me, and I've realized that the internet isnt everything as I used to think. And now, I am going to be the man of the house, and the amount of responsibilites I have now is immense. I'm going to have to make all the money in this house very soon...

    Hope you guys can support me through this. I cried myself to sleep last night :(.

    Thank you.
     
    Phultu, Sep 22, 2008 IP
  2. leandar

    leandar Well-Known Member

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    #2
    show this thread to your dad and mom
     
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  3. mikey1090

    mikey1090 Moderator Staff

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    #3
    I am sure your Dad will still help you out financially, right?
     
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  4. Phultu

    Phultu Peon

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    No mate, nothing.
     
    Phultu, Sep 22, 2008 IP
  5. mikey1090

    mikey1090 Moderator Staff

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    #5
    Does your mum have a job?

    Parents get divorced all the time. I think its a legal requirement in the UK for the father to financially support his kids even if he doesn't live with them.
     
    mikey1090, Sep 22, 2008 IP
  6. !Unreal

    !Unreal Well-Known Member

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    Legally he has to.
     
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    #7
    Just remember it's not your or your sister's fault. This is part of life, it happens. Be strong even though they will part you still will have them in your life. Hang in there you will get by.
     
    jkadin, Sep 22, 2008 IP
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    EvcRo Notable Member

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    I'm sorry to hear this ... My parents divorced when I was very little and I know how painful it is. Think about this: it's better for them being apart if they are always fighting and not loving each other anymore. It's very traumatic for you to see them sad, mad and frustrated all the time. Time will heal all the wounds...
     
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  9. Phultu

    Phultu Peon

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    I really hope so :( Thanks to all who have showed concern.
     
    Phultu, Sep 22, 2008 IP
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    uttoransen Prominent Member

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    I guess yes!

    as per law, your dad will pay money to your mom when they get divorced, so don't worry about the financial part.

    as of now, why don't you call your close relatives, they might sort out this tension between your parents!
     
    uttoransen, Sep 22, 2008 IP
  11. Phultu

    Phultu Peon

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    No mate, after last night, I really doubt ANYTHING can improve.

    My dad has taken all of my mom's money and they have a joint account.
     
    Phultu, Sep 22, 2008 IP
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    FOX LORE Notable Member

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    Don't worry! Your mom is smarter then you think. You may have hard times but it will get better. You will mature early but that is good. Just finish school and you will see things will get better.
     
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  13. mshore

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    Sorry to hear about the hard times that you are going through. I would like to tell you that it is going to get better, but the truth is that it is probably just starting, and it will probably get worse before it gets better. So depending on where you are in the world, your Dad may be required to support you and your sister, and your Mom should probably look into getting a lawyer. Odds are she is already working on things without drawing you kids in too much. Just let her know about your worries and I'm sure she can talk to you about what is happening.
     
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    #14
    Be strong and you will bear it
     
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    This happens a lot so don't think you are alone. The arguing in front of both of you is really immature in my eyes. I think you and your sister should talk to the parents separately and let them know the yelling and screaming right in front does not help the situation you or your sister are in.

    tell them that they are adults and they need to act like it. if they want to yell, fine but not if front of the kids.

    As Leandar said above, showing them this post might open their eyes a little more.

    Just keep a strong head on your shoulders and dont let this take you are your sister down a wrong path, know what i mean? yes you are growing up fast, and yes you are the man of the house now and honestly man, if you need peps to talk to i'm sure many of us here are down to talk it through. I am.

    Mike.
     
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    ArticleScholar Well-Known Member

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    Move on, I've experienced this when I was 5. ;) It will make you a better, stronger person in future. :)
     
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  17. edenz

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    May be your mom have a crush on someone......of course it will not love and neither office jobs.. no one can never be so careless which lead any argument to divorce. There must be something fishy..... you must need to find out .... this will help you to find many answers which might be floating into your mind rite now.

    I hope I never get such wife..... no offence dear plz
     
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  18. Curtis Hunter

    Curtis Hunter Well-Known Member

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    #18
    My parents divorced when I was really little. Around 4-6. Today, I visit my mom and live with my dad and step mom. It kinda sucks. . . However, life is easier to get by because of the experience.

    Here's my tip: learn to code website and do programming :) You can learn at such a ripe age and set yourself up for a profitable future. I'm 14 and earning online :D
     
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  19. Seanmac

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    Where do you live???
     
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    cessvergara Banned

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    It's really hard to come into a relationship without love...I already experience that with my parents, my mom doesn't love my dad since then but still I'm here in this world! But my point is, if you can still help fix their problem then good, do your best dude! don't lose hope..and if it really didn't work, move on, support your mom..and be a responsible person that you can be!
     
    cessvergara, Sep 23, 2008 IP