I've just split up with my girlfriend of two years. We have split amicably and have agreed to stay friends, but it's still pretty painful. Anyone got any words of wisdom about moving on? Brew
Well, I don't really have any words of wisdom about moving on, but I must say that it is very good that you two agreed to stay friends!!!!
Totally disagree. I never think its good to be friends after. Then you just wonder what caused the mess up, and now just friends? After you look at her and think "Why are we just friends?" Like its stuck in your mind for the rest of your life when you think of her.
Keep yourself busy. Go out and do some activities with your friends/family to help keep your mind off the breakup.
Just socialise and meet new people is what I find best. Staying friends with her can be good though, my ex girlfriend is now actually my best friend who knows me like nobody else and vise versa, I know I can count on her in a time of need so if you can make sure in your head she is your friend it will be fine. Nothing wrong with being friends.
I agree with shazz, once you split up with a girlfriend you really don't want her to call you in the middle of the night because her current boyfriend did something stupid to her. Words of wisdom? I would say, try to move on as fast as possible. I don't know you so I have to guess you liked her and she liked you plenty to stay together for two years. The best thing for you to do is to get out and start having fun, go to clubs (if your old enough ) and get back in the game. eh just don't get them pregnant! Dan
My only wisdom is : I don'y get this stupidity of "remaining friends" + women stupidity Anyway sorry man
Sorry to hear things ended. You have to be honest with yourself, how mutual was this split? You need to be honest with yourself and find out the truth. If you were more the dumper than the dumpee, you need to see some family and friends and move on, if you are more the dumpee than dumper, you need to do whatever you can to get away from this situation. Go out and go work or play or do something to stay away from the situation, and clear out all the old things from the relationship too. For more advice, and a more detailed explanation, see my article on the subject. Good luck!
aaah just live life. Once you get 35 you'll see what i mean and yes, always stay friend of ex, that's a good starting point to get married
Sorry to hear. I'd have to say, staying friends is great if you want the idea of possibly getting back together. If not, when you do find someone else, THEY won't appreciate your friendship. Thats from personal experience. Also, the best advice I can give is to get out of the house and be around people. It never helps to be alone.
I was in the same situation as you when I broke up with my girlfriend. She begged and begged for us to stay good friends so I gave in and stayed. That was a bad mistake. I noticed after I stayed friends with her, I never got a chance to get over her. What I did was I cut off contact with her, completely. Blocked her off of MSN, deleted her numbers from my phone, threw away pictures of us, etc. I stayed like that for around a month until I decided to contact her again. I never felt anywhere near as bad as before. What you need is time away from them. Anything that reminds you of them, throw it away or hide it until you're ready to look at it again. Remember that you should base your actions off of yourself instead of the other party. If you don't feel right keeping in contact with her, you are not obliged to stay in contact. Talk to some new people. I didn't feel wanted by anyone when I broke up with her, so when I talked to some new ladies that were interested in me, I felt wanted again. Of course, it always comes down to your self-esteem level but when you suffer from a deep breakup, then even self-esteem won't save you completely. Stay in contact with your friends and family and have as much fun as you can. You're single now, you are nowhere near as restricted as you were before!
Brew, the best way to let go and be a better person because of it is to wish for her to find a good man again for her. Then you will be able to say that because of knowing her you are now a more unselfish person than before
Hey, try to take it positively. There's no such thing as permanent breakup. Both of you could still be good friends and who knows one day both of you may still be together once again. Healing takes time.
Very nice. There, all you need to know and follow. Better yet, try her bestfriend. *cough* Bogart *cough