No one can tell you what to do. Only you and you only can answer that question. We are talking about marriage, responsibility, kids and everyday stuff that you will have to go through.
dude.... you know there's DIVORCE right? mine just got finalized LOL already got another one dieing to marry me...
If you don't feel ready to get married, don't. Otherwise later on you might get divorced. From the above quote, it doesn't look like you're ready to me.
Well marriage is mostly a psychological barrier you need to cross.. you and her will have a ring, it shows to the world you will not get involved with other people, .. but you have to think for yourself: how much different would it be from the 3,5 years you are together now ?? if it really is very different then you shouldn't be married (and maybe shouldn't be together) if it's not very different then you could as well get married saying things that hurt and not noticing - that's a man's thing.. married men still do it - you just learn not to do it too often about the money spending - my wife is also like that.. I guess most women are. You just have to decide if you can live with it or not.. but if you cannot, be prepared to search a long time for a woman who's not like that Only thing to solve it is to talk about it and search for a solution - we solved it by opening a second bank account, she has her own card to take money off it.. in the beginning of the month a fixed amount is transfered to it, so she knows she has only so much each month to spend (house bills and my things get paid from the other account), if she has money left over she can spend more at the end of the month or the next month, if the money's out then she can't spend until the next month.. You two should really talk about it. Tell her all your concerns about the relationship - money for a baby, for a marriage, money for just getting through the month.. And then just decide.. if you're together for 3,5 year it sounds to me it's serious, probably more serious then you realise it is. Think for yourself if you really want to spend your life with her or not. If you don't, then be honest enough to let her know. But before you make this decision, also think how it would be if you leave her. Would you really find a better woman ?? (and not only find her but also get together and have her love you ??)
Just an observation from me, you have pointed out more good attributes than bad. And the old saying is you don't miss something till you haven't got it. My two cents worth she should be the one who leaves and finds some-one who appreciates her!!! Three and a half years should be enough to know what you want or don't want (she obviously does).
Wow you're really a genius, can I say Einstein of the 21st century? </sarcasm> OP, straight up tell her you don't want to get married and she should break up with you if she wants. You honestly don't want to live with all the nagging.
okay.. this is what i think.. you're living with her under the same roof for 3 and a half years but yet, you say you are not ready to get married. And both of you are already 27. To be honest, I really think that you are selfish for not marrying her after living with her for 3 and a half years. If you don't want to marry her as soon as possible and keep thinking you're not ready for this and for that (those are just selfish excuses), then, just breakup and let her find someone who will appreciate her more and wed her. It might be painful right now but both of you will get a better life. As a girl, when I really want to get married (like what your girlfriend thinks right now), then, just get married. I don't mind not having a huge wedding. Just both of us and our family members + some relatives are enough. It's the guys who keep thinking that "girls want huge wedding..blablabla..". to be honest, we don't care as long as we can call the man we love as our husband. usually the girl's parents are those who want huge wedding. But heck, their daughter is already 27. I think they would rather see their daughter's happiness than a huge pompous wedding in the next 10 years.
"might even love her" 1 I don't think you do love her. Trust me, when you love somebody you KNOW. No room for "might". 2 Of course she wants to get married. For a woman the clock is ticking...if she wants a child she can't wait that long + it's understandable she wants to get married: you moved in together 3 years ago! Others propose after 6 months of dating. She probably thinks she waited long enough and that's why she is angry...if you can't make up your mind after all this time... 3 I don't get this fear of marriage that men have. Think of this: for you it will be practically the same, nothing will change - you already live together...It's just papers. Someone mature wouldn't be scared of it and would think that starting a familly it's something natural. (You might think "ok, if it's just papers, she souldn't want it so bad". But as I said, for girls it's a little different: a man looks ok even at the age of 40 but nobody looks at a woman that age. A girl wants to get married as long as she still can...as long as she still got the looks + the baby...after some age it's getting harder to have kids...problems with getting pregnant and her body is getting old..) 4 There's always divorce! Don't think of marriage like at some prison! You have the key, you can open at any time 5 If you decide to do it, have a talk with her about money, tell her what having a child involves (financially) and that she must cut off her expenses. Otherwise, you don't have money for a baby. She sould get a job too if she doesn't have one. . You wanted a girl's oppinion, here it is. Hope it clarifies some of your problems.
if you cant really afford big $$$ for wedding do it simple money is a problem but....may not be big problem when you like each other
put a ring in her finger for god sake !! I'm 19 and i've been with my gf for 1.5 a year ...and know she is the one ... you might say ..this is a 19 years old teen but i believe 3.5 years is a long period and don't know why you still can't decide if she is the one or not see it from this way as i think she see it your 40 and had a kid ....after 18 years your kid will be grown up and you will be 58 years old ...both will have a major cap in understanding each other but at 27 is better ...cause the cap won't be that big its your choice but have a family is great thing
According to me here in the message itself you are highly attached with her but you dont want to accept it on your professional way...you need to be clear ...without break off you can sort it out by enrolling her in to your world...then only you can get your true love otherwise if you leave her then after sometime you will get noticed that you cant live without her..it is the story of 3 and half years not 3 hours..so think upon it...