why married couple separate?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by aloui, Oct 22, 2007.

  1. #1
    why doest married couples separate after sharing life for a years and have kids?

    i dont really understand why couples separate i think it is not easy but why?

    if i get married i will make sure i love him and he love me. We will do our best to make our relationship last and feels always our fist time romance.:D

    what your view about it? can you share yours? :)
     
    aloui, Oct 22, 2007 IP
  2. surfaddict

    surfaddict Active Member

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    right now, my sister nearly a year already living away from her husband. They already got 2 daughter and 1 son.

    Sometime, marriage life is not easy as other thinking. It more about how people contribute they self to ensure the other party is satisfied with them. How you want to take the responsibilities for each other.

    My sister separated due to impatience with my bro-in-law. He quite lazy and selfish.
     
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    I think it is either they have fallen out or love or lack of comunication between spouses.
     
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    RDL Banned

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    #4
    Because of their......hmmm great mistakes...thats it
     
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  5. Night Owl

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    I think with a lot of people it's a deep down incompatability. Either they rushed into marriage, dazzled by the initial love or lust or whatever, then found out they didn't really "mesh" in the important ways, or they just grew apart, developed differently, and ended up with little in common as years went on.

    Sometimes extreme stresses or unresolved problems, can destroy an otherwise good marriage. Or just totally different personalities or expectations.

    If you find someone you are truly compatable with and take the time to be considerate of each other, share and develop joint goals and plans, be there for each other, don't let problems of difficulties fester and come between you, then a marriage can last as a wonderful ongoing adventure together! The love and passion does NOT have to die or diminish as the years pass! They may change, but probably just grow stronger. With the right person. I am speaking from experience... my husband and I have been together for about 14 years and it just gets better and more exciting, planning and reaching our goals and sharing our lives and love.

    So... pick wisely, find your soulmate (they do exist!) and don't "settle" for someone just so you won't end up alone, or get carried away by the initial excitement without seriously being as sure as you can be. There's no guarantees, but going into it "with your eyes open", understanding what a marriage really is, and being open, sharing, and willing to work together to make it a brilliant worthwhile partnership, sure helps!
     
    Night Owl, Oct 22, 2007 IP
  6. JesMea

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    My humble opinion why married couple separate. Just 10 big category.

    1. No commitment
    2. Lack of understanding of each other
    3. Selfish
    4. takes things for granted
    5. expect change in the other yet no change in self
    6 in-laws interference
    7. my money is mine and your money is mine also
    8. poor communication
    9. long separation
    10. health reasons

    :eek:
     
    JesMea, Oct 22, 2007 IP
  7. abstroose

    abstroose Notable Member

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    I really don't know, but if you find an aswer let me know.

    My parents broke up last year after 20 years together and five kids.
     
    abstroose, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    #8
    these are good reasons.. yeah. I agree.
     
    Pauline, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    KingofKings Banned

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    #9
    Sex isn't that great after 5-10 years.

    Imagine sleeping with the same chick for that long.. gets boring.
     
    KingofKings, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    maldives Prominent Member

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    #10
    If you are thinking about a seperation better don't ever consider gettting married. Much easier and less headaches.
     
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    KingofKings Banned

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    #11
    You don't think about separation when you get married.
     
    KingofKings, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    stock_post Prominent Member

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    #12
    EGO : Some times rule! (I mean ruin the lives)

    Some time they fight for a small thing.. And then want the other party to start the communication.
     
    stock_post, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    #13
    Anything you can think of would probably be a reason someone would separate. The biggies are listed above by a few people, but really anything not going a person's way can be used as an excuse.
     
    bridanp, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    Marriage is illegal so separation is not a matter , i mean marriage is not a "nature low" so the problems should be come there .
     
    leandar, Oct 22, 2007 IP
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    #15
    When love and romance are gone, there is no point to go together. It’s best for all.
    When you are getting married you think that everything would be great in the next 50 years, but everything is changing. That’s natural.
     
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    #16
    because married couple forget that marriage is a continuous process,they have to work it out everyday of their lives..
     
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    What is here with me!!! I am married. But now separate because my father in law against our marriage. My wife wants to live with me and I also But my father in law doesn't want.
     
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    #18
    Sometimes people just grow apart. They don't mean to but it happens
     
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    #19
    They get tired of each other.
    or maybe they fall in love with someone else lol.
     
    ErnestHemingway, Oct 22, 2007 IP
  20. aloui

    aloui Banned

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    #20
    for me it is not excuse. i think married couple should not get bored sleeping with the same man and have sex with him/her.they should make they night hot :D

    but i know some couple separate about it. :(
     
    aloui, Oct 22, 2007 IP