Online dating- after how many weeks do you meet the person after chatting online?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by shahab6, Oct 8, 2007.

  1. #1
    I replied to this girls ad online, and she replied back. We exchanged e-mails for a few weeks, I asked her lets meet for coffee. At first she said am sick, maybe sometimes once I get better. So we exchanged more e-mails for two weeks. I asked her again lets meet, she said let's talk over the phone first. I called her, but over the phone we didn say much to each other. Do you think I should continue exchanging e-mail with her or I should move on? As it seems that she doesn't want to meet and I'm not looking for in a pen-pal. Also people who have done this, after how weeks did you meet? As it's different when you meet someone face to face then when you e-mail them or chat online
     
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  2. getjimmy

    getjimmy Prominent Member

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    Move on to next one,thats the only advantage of online dating.
     
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    bordello Notable Member

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    Yup......According To Me Online Dating Not Come To An End I.E Marriage

    Thanks
     
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  4. kasami2k4

    kasami2k4 Peon

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    I was chatting to my boyfriend for an entire year, before I met him. We're a really close couple, but only three years in now.
     
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  5. shahab6

    shahab6 Well-Known Member

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    That's a long time, why did it take you such a long time to meet? you need to spend time with the person to know if you like each other or not.
     
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  6. shahab6

    shahab6 Well-Known Member

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    I know, that the best part, that's why want I want to spend time with her, to see if we enjoy each other's company. If not we should move on.

    The thing with with me is, I don't really like to chat online. I want to go places with the person, like movies,bar, the mall, restaurants, clubs, parties and etc. it's more fun that way.
     
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    anions Notable Member

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    So online dating really works :eek:

    I thought it only existed so that horny guys could chat with bots and we webmasters could make some money :p
     
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  8. Firegirl

    Firegirl Peon

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    It kinda sounds like to me she is trying to avoid meeting you. Only she knows the reason why, but maybe she's scared. I tried the online thing once, and most of the men I met online were very pushy about meeting alone in person. I became a chicken and didn't do it. But, they didn't want any friends tagging along and if their intentions were true, they wouldn't care about that. See if she wants to meet with some of your friends involved to ease the tension....
     
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    ForgottenCreature Notable Member

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    I've never tried online dating. Why don't you meet someone in real life?
     
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    info_mamaru2007 Banned

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    #10
    Online Dating is just for fun... a person who you are talking on the other line is sometimes not true to her/himself...
     
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    vnairp11 Well-Known Member

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    where exactly did u meet this girl? wat site? so i can meet one too lol
     
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  12. shahab6

    shahab6 Well-Known Member

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    I asked here lets meet at Starbucks, there a lot of people there, so it safe, and she shouldn't be afraid.
     
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    No never done this before. I used online dating concept for some affiliation programs only :D
     
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  14. shahab6

    shahab6 Well-Known Member

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    the girls I meet in real life most have boyfriends, and others just want to be friends. So I decided to give this a try
     
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    The Rock Well-Known Member

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    Oh okay,

    that means you are finding real LOVE :D
     
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  16. shahab6

    shahab6 Well-Known Member

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    I know that, that is why my intentions are to meet the person.
     
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    If you think she is nice I'd say yes, contineu to mail her untill she is ready. I met my husband on the internet and whe had our first date when whe knew each other on the phone and by emails for 3 months. Maybe she is a litle shy, or extremly ugly ;)
     
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    I wouldn't press her too hard to meet with you too soon. Meeting in person can be very scary - and even in a crowded place can be a risk if there is no-one you know around.

    Have you asked her if she is avoiding meeting in person? Maybe you could ask her what her worries are and if there is any way you could help? Maybe suggest meeting up with a friend or two each in tow? Organise a group trip to the cinema maybe? Then you can get over the first face to face meeting without too much pressure on either side & move on from there.

    When I tried internet dating I did meet up with a guy after chatting online for a few weeks. However, I didn't go on a 'date' for the first meeting - I just popped in to meet him briefly while we were each out in the same area with our respective friends - so there was plenty of backup around for each of us.
     
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    Sure sounds like she is resisting it. Have you exchanged photos?
     
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    Give it another two weeks, if she doesn't want to meet you then move on to a hotter one. :)
     
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