About a year ago, I used to know a friend online. We became good friends and we started sharing money making secrets. One day he was in need of cash, and I gave it to him. He said he will return it next week, but he disspeared for 3 months. Anyway he came back and he made all these silly excuses, so I got so pissed decided to block him. About couple of months ago he contacted me, and was wanting to bring the relationship back. And he said he will pay the money, in monthly payments. Maybe he's going to try to scam me some more? What would you do?
He said he will send the money in monthly payments. It's about $500 dollars, it's not that big amount. It's just the idea of getting scammed by a friend that pisses off.
$500 is a pretty big amount to be scammed out of. Forgive him but tell him that no business will come till he sends payment, when/if he sends payment, block him. Edit: If you feel that too meant to do, just tell him you hold no grudge but you just cant trust him so no friendship will ever come. Ask yourself, is it really worth the pain that you will go though if he is just trying to do it again?
Yes that is my question, would you trust him again? Would you resume the friendship? Or when your scammed by someone that it's.. he's Trash?
I think you should give him atleast one chance. Don't tell him any thing (secrets) now and just wait and see if he pays you back in monthly installments. If yes, carry on with him but be careful. When you get all of your money back then try to trust him a little bit, but try not to trust him completely yet. This is a long procedure and it also depends on your perception how you judge the guy after few months. I'll say, give him one last chance, and see how it goes.
Urm I think I would talk to him again, but won't give out to much trust...I mean if he does keep his word and does pay you back, then you should at least give him another chance huh... well good luck
forgive him, especially since they are trying to make amends (though you should regardless...easier said than done of course)
What if I do give him a chance, and it ends up in him trying to scam me more I think I should keep the friendship causal until I recieve the all the money, then think about giving him a chance. But you never know what a man is thinking, trying to make amends is not enough.
This is why I mentioned in my first post not to trust him much and try to build trust gradually and I'm sure you would be able to guess what he is thinking/ would try to do with you. Don't just trust him with your eyes closed but be careful and hopefully there will be a happy ending
Well it looks like with time we will tell, but I don't think he's back to make friends... I think he's back for more cash.
If he is your real friend (offline I Mean) then you could easily check his intentions. You can judge him very easily by how he talks , what he talks about, how he meets you, how he treats you, what sudden changes in him and everything physical. Judging a person in real life is not really hard but if he is your online friend, you will have to think different
Forgive him, yes, eventually... Things like that take time. Give him a chance, see if he pays the money back. You might be able to become friends again, but don't ever loan him money again.
I think it's generaly bad to lend money to friends (of any kind). It can break a friendship. Give him a chance to return your money but don't lend him again.