Hey all, I recently ended a relationship with someone I have dated on and off for a year. Why? Because she claims she likes another guy. I don't blame her, please read the entire story before replying: Last summer, I met a girl. She was very eccentric and outgoing, like me. We met as she was skidding around gravel in my town while I was walking. We talked on MSN..made a few phone calls..and then I ended up calling her everyday to tell her about how my relationship with my girlfriend at the time sucks. She was my psychologist, basically. Then, me and my girlfriend at the time brokeup and this new girl and I started dating. I cheated on her twice before December, and she left me for another guy.I felt like crap to say the least. I missed her, and wanted her back so bad. I told her to not talk to me, and we didn't talk for 3 months straight. Then out of nowhere, I finally responded to one of her text messages that she sent me a few times each month. Then we met up, hit it off, and fell back in love. I cheated on her again, because we got in a fight and I didn't care at the time. After this last time, I really felt horrible. I would never cheat on another person in my life- and I'm being honest. She cried for days...and told me I hurt her more than anything. Now..recently..we got back together one last time..she gave me one last chance. After just a few days, which went amazingly well, she told me she fell in love with another guy during one of our previous fights. We broke up this morning, and I asked her not to talk to me again. My question is..do you think she will contact me again? Last time this happened, she texted and called every few weeks..but I never answered them. She is truly the love of my life, and I know that there is no one else like her. Despite all that I told her, she continued to pursue the new guy. Advice? (I know I shouldn't have cheated on her..but I'm past that. I will never do that again to anyone)
Heh see I don't seem to believe that.. if you did it twice, what makes you think you have truly learned your lesson? Anyways, I also dated someone for a year and we were steady that whole year, yeah we had fights but who doesnt? Anyways, we ended up breaking up <b>but</b> we stayed friends, though we did go through our weird stage. I know I will not find anyone like him and I only want to be in a relationship with him but if he is happy where he is, I am happy that I atleast have his friendship... I guess what I am trying to say is, the future is the future, only God knows what's going to happen and if you are meant to be with this girl.. you will end up with her.. same with me and my ex...Not talking to her though is not a good idea, you're shutting a door that you obviously don't want closed yet. Start slow, mainly earn her trust back, nothing is more painful than being cheated on.. I am still learning that actions speak louder than words..though my words get kinda jumbled sometimes as well.. Good Luck though, Court
I know, it was a learning lesson by cheating on her twice. I saw the repercussions of it, and I would never do it to anyone again. Honestly, I can't be just her friend..you know? I would always want her. Not talking to her allows me to move on. I will be moving to the city in 1-2 years. Perhaps I may find another like her...I really hope so.
See I always want more, My ex is my dream guy.. but I'd rather be his friend so the shot is there, than lose him forever.
Same here. I guess you are stronger than me, because I personally couldn't take just being friends...and hearing about the new guy..and all that. Plus..I think it helps in her realizing what she wants. Otherwise, she might just be content with having us both. (me as a friend) I don't know. I'm sure in a few months she will end up texting me or calling...until then I guess. And if it happens, then there is no way I would mess up again...
18. I know I'm young. But hell, I've loved other girls. This one is different than the rest. I mean I can't eat...and I can barely sleep. I'm thinking about throwing away everything that reminds me of her, because I feel like crap every time something reminds me of her.
Is this thread becoming a suicide thread? Post some pics of both girls and I'll tell you if it's worth it.
18. You have got to be kidding me. 18. The last god dang thing you should be worried about is staying with one girl. Dude, you're 18. Start living and forget about her! You shouldn't even be thinking about a serious relationship until you are at least 25. Get your life in order first and then worry about serious relationships. Serious relationships at your age interfere with getting your life together. BTW, this advice fits for women too! No, no she isn't! . . . and YES, do this . . .
Bebicul - i would never even think about harming myself. threebuckchuck - i hope you are right. ill try it. thanks for the help guys.
I also felt in love with a girl but it ended up with me thinking I'm too young to handle it.. I think you should try to forget her. I know its hard to forget but with time you will be better. And don't cheat again..As threebuckchuck said you will be able to make a better decision at an older age and at that time you can think about serious relationships..
Looks like this thread has a lesson for me too. Thank you zac for sharing your experience.Hope this will help
I feel so much better guys. I just stopped thinking about all the good things about her, and realized all the bad..plus I had some long talks with a lot of friends. I can forget her now, I'm actually somewhat normally happy now . Her and a friend came to my workplace tonight and we met eyes..looked away...it was kind of awkward. But anyways, her friend was drunk off her butt and was running into things. Later on, I heard they got pulled over and 3 county cops were talking to them both. Sucks
kill the new guy! anyways, just forget it and move on, that's how life is, am sure you will get another! since you made those mistakes yourself, so there is no one to blame! my suggestion : forget her
Thanks for the advice. I was doing really well, she called me at 5 AM this morning...when I asked her not to contact me. I think I took a few steps back in moving on, but I'm definitely getting there. I told her not to contact me again...sigh
You acted exactly like the slowest scumbag Do you think you deserve to make her again feel bad let it go .... I cheated once to but imply becouse the one whit i was at the time i didn't have any feelings for her / and i found another that was more intresting ....