Can people have a successful 'open relationship'?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by devin, Feb 13, 2007.

  1. #1
    i just came across this word today when i heard my friends discussing it. it's kinda interesting, i wonder what you guys think?

    there's one part where my friend said he had an open relationship with her. they agreed not to talk about other people that they are seeing. so for example, my friend would ask her "when do you want to go see a movie?" instead of "do you want to see a movie tomorrow (valentine's day)?". The first one does not require the girl to reveal anything about anyone she's seeing, while the second one does (according to my friend).

    then another friend was saying open relationship is basically just permission to swing around.

    EDIT: a search on google turned this out:

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    i wonder if they amazon accept refunds for that. :D
     
    devin, Feb 13, 2007 IP
  2. rochow

    rochow Notable Member

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    I discovered you could actually buy used condoms on ebay (according to the google ad) - charming :p

    I don't think an open relationship is the way to go - you will get so used to doing whatever it will feel weird committing and won't work out well.

    I operate on a 'similar' policy... it's like we'll go out, if you hook up with another guy fine, I hook up with another girl fine - but we are still in a relationship and you can't date anyone else... only once off flings with people are okay, but if you like them and starting hanging out with them then goodbye.

    Of course the girls aren't exactly the 'love of my life' which is why I don't mind oh so much. If they like someone else, just break up with them and move on, nine times out of ten they will break up with their new bf within a couple of weeks

    So I guess I like "semi-open" relationships :)

    Maybe later in life I will like closed ones better - though it does differ with girl to girl, some of them don't want semi-open ones so yeah...
     
    rochow, Feb 13, 2007 IP
  3. InfoH

    InfoH Well-Known Member

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    #3
    haha would never buy condoms off ebay

    open relationships can work, if both people are in that place where they arnt too fussed..

    just gotta have them both wanting same thing
     
    InfoH, Feb 13, 2007 IP
  4. freezee

    freezee Active Member

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    NOOO trust me it can go very bad, truth sometimes hurts lol
     
    freezee, Feb 14, 2007 IP
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    w3bmaster Notable Member

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    #5
    Open Relationship = for me to discuss anything with her

    Open relationship for others means seeing other people etc etc for me that's crap not a relationship ...
     
    w3bmaster, Feb 14, 2007 IP
  6. Jack Swift

    Jack Swift Peon

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    I've tried it a few times, but never when I was serious about the girl. Even then, my pride got the best of me and I ended up breaking up with her. I guess I am a little too caveman.
     
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    You can have a very boring relationship for being open in every aspect of it. And sometimes, it's worth telling white lies. :D
     
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  8. devin

    devin Guest

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    i tend to like this definition. my friend is saying that's what they do.

    related: how is 'dating' different from 'in a relationship'?
     
    devin, Feb 14, 2007 IP
  9. Tyler Banfield

    Tyler Banfield Well-Known Member

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    I think an open relationship is more or less the same thing as friends with benefits.

    99% of the time these kinds of relationships don't work out in the long-term because one person ends up getting more attached than the other one
     
    Tyler Banfield, Feb 14, 2007 IP
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    dcristo Illustrious Member

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    in other words... it's ok to sleep around
     
    dcristo, Feb 14, 2007 IP
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    It's the same thing. They sound more like they are basically having multiple relationships though (going out on dates etc.)
     
    rochow, Feb 14, 2007 IP