love merriage or arrange merriage, which one is intresting and life long or strong?

Well love for me i weill not arange this never

 

An arrange marriage doesn't makes relationship stronger. It wont even last longer. But live-in before marriage for me can make good relationships.

 

if u r takin time to know eachother.
den it possible in love marriage too.
if u go thru arrange marriage u r unknown with his/her past.
if she/he betrayed u den it will b new surprise to u.
so u hv to know very well firstly right.

 

Okay, I didn't read everything in this thread but from what I could tell there was a common theme. If you can't find somebody to marry on your own, then you should have an ARRANGED marriage? Are you nuts? Just don't get married, then! I'm sorry, I just don't see the point of being shackled to some man or woman you don't even know purely because you were arranged into that.

 

The point of an arranged marriage is spending more time occupied and discovering more about your partner.

Uh and DeniseJ, it doesn't necessarily mean that you ain't getting a lover... it could also mean that you want to respect your parents' decisions for your life.

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I don't agree with arranged marriages, sorry. I don't believe that your parents know what's best for you when it comes to choosing your partner. You have to find someone that's compatible with you, not someone your parents *think* might work.

 

I am with Love Marriage....

 

hahaha, yes, if one has that option in India (not to marry) then its the best. But believe me, the society will kill you if you don't marry, its such a kind of social pressure in India. It's not like in US. But frankly I like the US system

Denise , again here u have a very natural point of view, as ur from CA, US. Most of my US friends think in similar lines. However, in India, u may be surprised to know that parents play a very important part in decision making of life partners.. in some cases they are just chosen by parents and just ordered to marry

And the reason is the way they are brought up in India, indians have too much of attachment and I will tell you one thing, the Bhagvadgita (the greatest Indian Hindu Epic book) believed to be written by God himself speaks of " A person should be free from all forms of attachment " . Still People in India are just attached to all forms of relationships and are a lot emotional compared to the rest of the world.

So the argument went geographical now ...

Abhilash.

 

Are arranged marriages legal in America or Europe?

 

if u r discovering about u r partner and u found u r partner is beatring u.
at dat time wat u will do?
i agree with parents respect.

 

To understand the culture you will also have to take into consideration of the caste factor.

More often than not parents choose a bride or a groom of a same caste. Some sections of India are totally dominated with this bias. The younger generation with access to the best education and higher income lifestyle are beginning to break free from these shackles.

The trend is reversing in urban cosmopolitan towns.

As far as my personal belief is concerned you need to be in love with a person to choose him or her as a life partner. Marriage is not something you should leave to chance.
As far as the longivity of the marriage is concerned it depends more on the understanding between the partners. Marriage needs to be worked upon. If you really invest in your marriage along with your partner you are bound to have a life which they call

"They lived happily ever after"

 

thanx.i m agree about u r longivity .

 

Totally dicto word as like he said! I even should go for Love marriage.... but searching yet dream girl!

Haha, she will saying you then, "Darling i have a affair with three bf more" isnt nice surprise for you.? J/k

 

Its not only caste factor in the arrange marriages.. another big factor is Dowry.
And do not blame the parents alone, I have seen many youngsters who do have girlfriends, but when asked they simply say, I am gonna marry the girl, my parents are going to choose, and one who will bring a heavy dowry. When asked what is the girlfriend for?? they reply, for fun, status and sex..
As long as there is dowry tradition in India, no matter what everyone says, Arrange marriages aint going to end.

 

I know what you are talking about. You said no one asked the meaning of word love but it is important to discuss what actually love is (now a days). I am not against love but these days love don't have its proper place and you can say respect.

And how come you can say it is easy to say "Talak" three times and re-marry again. That's not like it. Talak is something different (as you didn't agree with me) I don't really think that it is important to discuss what Talak is about.

Right now we are discussing arranged marriage and Love marriage. ANd I gave my opinion to have "Arranged Love marriage" (some how my own term, but it is clear that what it means).

Completely arranged marriage! No way (I am against this). It is the matter of whole life. If you don't know a person that it takes lot longer to understand a person (in case of arranged marriage). But I don't quite agree with love marriage too. Love marriage can create hell lots of troubles for you

Cheers

PS:Nothing personal Kan!

 

ya, i agree with u we get good and bad surprises too.

 

I certify you absolutely INSANE.

Even a love marriage is arranged by " SOME ONE " .

So essentially every marriage is arranged

 

Haha, you just want to see if you can get a rise out of me don't you Kartik?

There's a distinct difference between marriages that are arranged against the couples will and those that a couple willingly enters into. If you don't understand that difference, I'll certify you insane

 

As I am not married yet, I think there is nothing called love marriage, I do believe with arranged one....

Love come and go, never stay at all (at least for me, and I think most of you too)

arranged means there are rules to repspect each other and on these rules Love might come

 

Yes i agree with you. Atleast in Indian context unless dowry and caste system gets eleminated arranged marriages are yet to stay.

I believe the current generation can reverse this trend.