lmao.... Frankly I find it more terribly when women use what's between their legs as a weapon. But I'm a guy, so I guess we all have our own stigmas. Nothing wrong with your dislike of it,...I just don't think our feelings will do much of anything to stop a committed person from doing such. I just feel that you have to recognize what you have in front of you, and deal with it appropriately. *shrug*
I pretty much feel the same way about cheating as Jenn does, so we REALLY shouldn't get into that discussion
Thus a bit of humor within the post I made. Yes, it's not a serious site. When's the last time you've seen a site with font size of 20 for everything? lmao. Sorry, I'm a bit of a joker in everything I do....even when it's serious. Although as I said before...not everything is BS in it.
And what is love anyway whilst we are on the subject? I thought it was just a fantasy put around by women to ensnare guys into committed relationships to ensure their future financial prosperity? Yeah... women do want the alpha male because over 90% of them are having sex with less than 10% of the males... hence why the majority of men will say they "got lucky"... because thats exactly what did happen!
Riiiiight... No one can answer that question for you, by the way. Love means different things to different people -- but when you are in love, you will know it. Obviously, you've never been in love Padawan or you wouldn't have such a twisted view of the concept.
No. Well, at least not as far as I'm concerned. It's not about some fairy tale fantasy. It's about finding someone who actually makes you completely willing to "work" for something greater with them, someone who is able to challenge you, and someone who you can disagree with while still completely respecting them. I don't think it's about being similar, but rather complementary, and based on mutual respect and admiration (for lack of a better term). If you love someone (again, just in my personal opinion), you put them above anyone else, and even yourself at times, and you do things for them just b/c you want to, and not because you feel obligated to. You also won't think about feeing as soon as things get tough. Again, those are just my feelings on the matter. Probably the most important aspect is just in finding someone who agrees with your feelings on what love is in the first place.
Men and women just have an instictually, genetic need to reproduce. We wrap it up in "love" sometimes as a way of justifying our actions to our now more advanced cognitive brains. Really, there is no logical reason to be in love, though I understand it is in the woman's best interests to think they guy loves her so that he is more likely to hang around after the event
Most men end up eventually wanting a woman to loyally be around taking care of them, just as there are women who want a strong supportive husband. We have people nurturing us our whole lives (in most cases), and we look for the same later in life.
That's probably why I will never get married -- because I refuse to "take care" of any man or give up my independence so a man can take care of me.
Well, it doesn't mean fully supporting each other, such as financially. But there's a big difference between truly being in love and wanting to do some more traditional things for each other, and two people simply living together and living independent lives. You may as well just be roommates then.. you need to be able to rely on each other. I'm a ridiculously independent person, (at your age I thought the same things that you say ... god, that makes me feel old lol). But after a while you realize you don't have to sacrifice that for other things. As long as a guy makes an effort, I don't mind picking up after him once in a while (just as long as it's not a habit). I love cooking for a guy when I'm with someone, and don't look at it like a chore or requirement.... of course if he expected a gourmet meal every night it would be a different story - he'd have to be willing to deal with take out or doing the cooking when I need a break, and if I cook, I fully expect him to willingly help pick up afterwards... not doing it himself. I expect him to be willing to just cuddle up on the couch and put up with a chick flick with me every once in a while, but I don't expect him to like it. On the other hand, I always go out of my way to do things he likes to do too, like taking him to a ballgame. I'd expect him to put up with the theater once in a while, but I'd also get him into an exclusive club to see a band he desperately wants to see. It's not about what you want, or what he wants... it's about compromise. And it's often very hard to find someone who makes you actually want to do that for the long haul.
Hmm, every girl/woman I have been with has cheated on me... must be the small penis eh? You really shouldn't stereotype like that. Their are women who cheat, their are men who cheat. Their are men who want a monogonistic relationship, and their are women like that. Unfortunately, only once in a blue moon do these two types actually find each other. I for one don't really care to much for the women species, as I am really tired of giving everything I have just to be crushed. Had enough of that I think.
To say you don't need anyone is ignorant IMO. Maybe not now, and maybe not later, but someday you will If I were to get married, I would not want to be taken care of, nor do I want to do the taking care of. Yes, favors back and forth that is no problem at all, infact it should be a part of it. The relationship, the love, the excitement and romance. I need a girl who will keep me on my toes, not one who gets into this repition of having dinner on the table and the house cleaned every day when I get home. I do not like that. Every girl that I have dated that I has tried to "take care" of me has seen how short my rope really is. I am a very independant person, and the person I seek needs to be independant too. Denise, you and I are very much alike I think. Doing our own thing in this crazy world; asking for no help and turning down any offered. Too proud, I think. Out to prove a point maybe? Who knows. I live life day in and day out with a new surprise every day. It is so weird though; because I do so enjoy helping out other people. It is almost like an oxy-moron. Take no help but give it all out. Hypothetically speaking, we would make a very interesting couple. [not trying to imply anything; just rambling about a theory]. It would be a very competitive situation, always pushing each other to the end of exhaustion. It would be fun though. I think it would be a very good compliment, but who knows, people tend to write about how they wish they were instead of what they really are like [not trying to imply anything, just a general overview]. Then again, I may have completely mis-interpreted you; as I do only have your writings to go off of Anyways, enough of my rambling! Thoughts?
So does that mean you're turning to men? lol j/k I'm sorry you've been cheated on a lot. Same here... every even remotely significant relationship has led to cheating... I also tended to choose the wrong types of guys, so it was my own fault to a degree. But look... both sexes are even now. lol And if you know of any of those monogonous men-types, be sure to send 'em my way. j/k Unfortunately there really aren't many (if any) places to meet the "good guy" types where I live... it's extremely difficult.
Hhahaa, nope not that far in. I am just taking a really long break from the women Yeah, I am not sure where I keep digging mine up. They seem so great at first. I think they get annoyed with the idea that I actually let them do their own thing rather then doing everything for them. I do agree with the "good guy" type of thing though. I have a few friends (more so aquaintances) that talk about their girl up, then 10 minutes later is all over some other girl... that annoys me like crazy.
Guys like that piss me off to no end. Not sure where I dig mine up either actually. Right now I'm in the opposite boat... I was taking time off from men. Finally got rid of my ex-fiance in February and wasn't looking for anything. Found an amazing guy anyway; didn't end up working out (not really anyone's fault); and I just wanted to take time away from men a bit longer to deal with getting over it (don't want to carry that baggage with me). Only about 5 minutes ago did I decide it might be time to jump back into things. (long story that no one needs to hear, haha) The thought scares me to death. I don't actually "pursue" men anymore. And turning them down has kind of become an instinctual thing... just the thought of bringing myself to say yes to take a chance on someone is terrifying enough... I've become such a wimp! lol If I'm lucky, a good one will finally surface. If not, I'll have to come back to DP and start a "men are scum" thread so we can all argue about stereotypes again. lol j/k Fun times. Best of luck in finding slightly more independent women... after your break at least. There are plenty out there I'm sure. ")
I'm very happt someone found that cool - that increases the chance of "educateing" the forum society (both male and female part) and give them some way to decide wich actions will be most apropriate to take when we are in hard situation - something like a book, but with a lot more ideas and suggestions than real book. Well if you are marring to have devorce - that's not the real marrige - it's stupid, but you are partially right - you must cover for any situation wich can "pop up" Yes - that's our true purpous in this life. We THE WOMEN are going to make world wide revolution "banning" you from any kind of sex you can have, and when you are most vulnerable we will be ready to kill all the jerks (includeing male humanoids) and make this planet ready for Amazon society. (if there is missunderstanding - that are bullshits you are talking are very funny - Powered by Tometo) Of cource we will - is there any rational human beeing will try to rule the world??? If I am trying to rule something - that's only my personal life (and eventually tha to people I love (ang to that people I'll try to help them from geting in troble - nothing more). Well - sometimes we are absolutely capable of reading guys. Believe me - that's not hard at all - just because you are thinking for sex every 15 secounds (and that tought take you 14 - wich mean you are thinking for other things less than a hour per day) I prefer the open and honest guy WHICH DO NOT CHEAT at me. Since I prefer the completly opposite type of guys - I'll criticize him. Yes - they are commited to themselves - not to the person they are with (any of that women). I'm sorry for your screwing - but i hope it's not result from that kind of behavior. Nope - I cant have a day without sex - even if that mean to touch myself alone in the dark (wich I did, and as i can see - I'm going to do that since my husband won't help me - I'm punnished for some stupid fight with him We hope this wich are worthed will get it (ot at least this wich get it are worthed). And with sex you get also something nice - like stairs fall or some kind of nasty incident. Yes - your EGO - it's verry big while you have to talk - but is it so big when you are cought "in action"??? generally - it's the same amount if we are talking about heterosexual cases. In other cases - may be. If you are counting orgasms - the hell - yeah. Have you experienced sex with just lying lady but i think it's not as good as if she was active. oh the hell - yeah it's very funny - but if you are dealing with a damn programmer - you can't (as you can see what's happening with me). Intresting teory - but i'm sure when you start to reproduce (in real - no contraceptives used) you will first think for the life conditions you can ensure your children. And if you want to have goor conditions you will first find the woman you can live with and eventualy marry. I can't agree here - if you marry you don't have to take care (at least not if you met the right guy). We have common bakn accouints, apartment, car, everithing. if we start counting how much each of us gives to the house, and what part of housework each do - we will end in eternal fights. So I do less houswork, but (for the moment) bring more money in the ousehood. Next mont it will be different, but my husband will continue to do the same thing. Indipendance is thing you forget after you marry - you and your husband. If he want something he will aks first - same as me. Nope - I don't say all the families are like that - just that is one of the possible ways you can arrange your marrige. One of the thing it's good to be a girl - you know the truth for the size Now seriosly - if you are intrested in non cheating relationship you have to admit that you make some mistake. This mistake is most possible - the coice of a woman. That's from me for now.
I think every woman wants lots of love with passion and also a man who take care her. She wants that he should understand her feelings and centiments.
yes - and the damn stupid think is that she is ready to give the same to her beloved - but usualy he do not want it.