I think that is often the problem, we make a few experiences or just one and start stereotyping. Women andmen do it both equally alike though. Btw this thread is way cool, I think I have learned something here heh
The problem is that we're all stupid when we're young, tend to get involved with the wrong types of people for us (both sexes), b/c the people we meet are the more aggressive/assertive ones that are just looking for a good time, and not really caring about the more serious qualities in other people. We form opinions based on what we experience then, and start to expect the worse (and I'm as guilty of that as the next person). People in general just get caught up in a bad cycle, and the lucky ones find someone who can snap them out of it. The rest get labeled as players or man-haters or something of the like. lol Such is life.
Sorry, my bad, women are dominant in population, LOL. I mean, although women are dominant, they can rule over mankind.
I don't think that collectively women really want to "rule" anyone. They don't want to bark orders and have men do as they say. Instead they want guys to actually care enough to do things they know would make them happy w/o being told at all... pretty big difference. When they don't ever do it on their own, we take it as them not caring, we can get pissed off about it, and that's when we just start becoming a nag or we get upset and emotional. We're pathetically easy to please. We'd happily let men have their fun ruling the world if they'd just learn how to keep us happy w/o us having to tell them all the time.
I am suprised at how much you ladies critisize Ferret. What do you prefer? A dude who will tell you what to want to hear and forget you after the first night, or someone who is open and honest?
Not quite sure what you're getting at... Ferret put himself into that one night stand category, and was going on about the "joys" of meaningless sex. Not exactly how you get women to not critcize you. Given, I feel bad that he was treated badly in the past, and can understand how it might have shaped his feelings on the subject, but treating a woman badly (as in just using her for sex) and then being honest about it doesn't justify the treatment in the first place (and I'm not trying to say he particularly does that in all or even most situations.. he just portrayed that stereotypical male mentality the most, and hence caught the brunt of the fallout).
I know a lot of guys in committed relationships having meaningless sex on the site, and their girl knows nothing. I myself have broken up a relationship out of stupidity last week. I know what you are saying, but you don't realize what guys are like. It's not always about wanting to screw up, it just happens.
Well it wouldn't as often if they'd just learn to keep it in their pants. And I'm not saying the woman involved wasn't to blame as well in that kind of situation, but it definitely doesn't "just happen". Everyone can exercise self-control. The problem is that too many choose not to.
OMG this is getting too long. I remember a comedian saying that he believed god was female, because if god was a man...the bible would be twenty pages (concise and to the point)....instead you have this huge book. And you have moses listening to god for twenty years at a time....what guy does that!? I think Carlos Mencia said that.
So, because it "just happens," that's an excuse for a man to sleep with other women on the side? Sorry, I don't buy that bullshit. As Jenn said, everyone can exercise self control, but if you CHOOSE not to than you have no one to blame but yourself.
If you associate with whores, then you're quite right. I don't condone women cheating or using sex for advancement or anything else anymore than I'd condone it with men. Most of the bad decisions women make regarding sex (whores aside, b/c they don't really warrant my time) are because they're more easily manipulated. Women tend to feel an emotional connection before men do, and it also often lasts longer post-sex (just a difference in how our bodies handle things chemically). So I don't think it's really that a lot of them are using sex to get a guy, but rather that (on top of being conditioned to think that's all men want from them) they actually feel something and act on it, hoping it will trigger him to feel the same way (which is stupid and naive, although I have to feel a little bit sorry for them). It's not like they blatantly come out to their friends and say, "I wanna snag a man tonight, so I'm going to go out and act like a $2 whore."
I AGREE.... I am not saying that all women are like this / are always like this, but there's a time that women seeks for that... and vice versa, men also does....
Some women do just love that emotional high of thinking it's love right away. So do some guys. I don't recommend it but I see it happen plenty often. All you can hope for at that point is that they don't let sex cloud things.