look if you love her forgive her in time you will regain that trust if you do split up you could end up regretting it for a very long time. I got drunk and cheated on my then girlfriend and i told her exactly what had happened. why? because i love her and was ashamed at what i had done it took time but we stuck at it and now 11years later we have 3 lovely kids a great marraige and things have never been better everybody makes mistakes and evrybody deserves a second chance
I don't agree that everybody deserves a second chance. Some people get into that way of thinking, and then after a third, fourth or fifth chance they start to realize how stupid they are.
Well, I think "Love" is the key in any relation, doesnt matter if he cheated her or she cheated him, in both direction if they love each other everything gonna be right, love cant be from one side, love should be from both. If you are in love try to do the best to keep it, once you lose it, you lose it forever and ever
Well, this issue has been in the world since ancient times. Some tribes even invented a word for it! like "The most difficult word to translate": The world's most difficult word to translate has been identified as "ilunga" from the Tshiluba language spoken in south-eastern DR Congo. It came top of a list drawn up in consultation with 1,000 linguists. Ilunga means "a person who is ready to forgive any abuse for the first time, to tolerate it a second time, but never a third time".
Here is my opinion. She deceived you no matter how you look at it. First, she said she cheated on you by making out with some guy who is drunk. That has never happened to me because I don't allow it to, drunk or not. Second, she says she lied to you about the cheating because she wanted to see if you cared. As far as I'm concerned, she screwed herself. No matter which way you go (whether you believe she cheated or lied about it), she made a huge mistake. You don't lie and you don't cheat, either way she has proven she cannot be trusted. Been in this situation before and showed the other party the door. Forget about trying to figure out what really happened, you were deceived either way. Move on and find someone who won't try and mess with your head!
well that is really a tough decision.. and it really hurts... but in my oipinion, we're just human, and we make mistakes..right?.. well, i hope each and evryone of us shud learn how to forgive others. does she doing that thing for many times?.. if u truly love her, and u still wnt to make up with her, i think u shud giv her another chance... giv ur relationship another chance. just like a card i hav read "it's worth another chance". Love is sacrifice..
I think I would break it off completey with her and move on. Like others have said, if you have to worry about what she is doing all the time, why go through that trouble? There are tons of single women in this world that wouldn't cheat, so move on and find a decent one. Better to break it off now instead of devoting 5 years to the relationship just to have it possibly happen again. You can go through a month or 2 of breakup agony or the rest of your life stressing about what/who the girl is doing.
klown, relationships in china differs much from relationship in usa or europe. So, you cannot get proper advice here.
only chinese for a year?? you should give me some of what she is taking i want a bigger dong can i be black?
:| Ignoring that guys post, theres nobody here who can tell you what to do. If i was in your situation I'd leave, but you could see it differently. Then again what do I know, im only 17
DeniseJ i do know how to pick them but i atract stupidity and i had many girlfriends and i'm sick all are the same and they go to sex very easily even if they where virgins i hate this ....
If you love something let it go, if it goes back to you - it's yours, if it doesn't - it never was... (=
I think Chriss summed up the situation as succinctly as possible, honestly. "I know how to pick them, but I attract stupidity." Then obviously you DON'T. It's apparent you continue to fall into the same pattern when it comes to choosing women. All women are NOT the same (just as all men are not alike.) Perhaps you need to take a break from women for awhile and let one come to you.
Well i'm in a breack (2 months allredy) i'm only concentrating in building my online business and going out with my friends at matches or beer so i stoped dating and searching not intrested anymore But trust me at me is not a pathern in must have something special and i'm not that type that looks at the body i'm atracted of other things then how they look (i never choesed a girl by this (maybe one time when i just stayed with her becouse she looked very hot... but ithat was afther the broke up with my fiance .... ) ) Oh well it seems you can't have evrything in life
Just listen to your gut, I've never been led astray by listening to what my gut tells me to do, even when my head and/or my heart are telling me otherwise. Conversely, when I've ignored my gut, I've regretted it the majority of the time!