I can tell you my real opinion becouse i will say hard words but the conclusion is : No way man if she lies and it's not trustfull let her gooo And i hate girls who do this kind of things cheating playing stupid games they are 98% the same hard to find a difrent one who actualy thinks with her brain
Lot of people will dissagree with me but i think Love is a game for Western people now. I am sorry to say that but i see that everyday. How can you accept someone who have like gone out with 10 other people to find you finally i dont get that. You go say i love you then you go out for few months and do all that BS of kissing and even Sex. Is that what is love, I dont think so. True love is when you cannot live without someone and you dont ask others to make a decision if you can live with her or not. Again i am sorry but thats not what i call "Love"
Kissing and sex aren't love, the feeling and the thoughts you have for that person day in and day out are love. The thoughts of spending your life with somebody and not having regret is love. Does it matter how long or how many people you date before you find it? Honestly no it doesn't. Now before I went out with this girl I had gone out with many, in fact when i first started going out with her i had 5 GF's, I and chose her out of all of them. Love is not a game for westerners, this idea of love being equal to sex is perhaps a game for many of us. Honestly I date a lot of girls at a time because most of them I won't like or even date after one or two dates. Finally I have to say that true love doesn't mean you can't live without the other person, that would be rather selfish. Even if I love her I might have to let her go, trust is important and after the last 3 months I don't think she'll regain mine. Would it be fair to her if I no longer trusted her and yet we became married? Last night I asked myself what she would have done had I done the same thing. I'm certain she would have broken up with me and moved on. The only thing at this point thats making me re-think my decision was that she said she just did this to see how much I cared for her. This would mean she didn't cheat, but it doesn't make her much more trustworthy. Then again at least the cause is that she cares for me, instead of caring so little that she cheats. Now I seem to have a conundrum in that on one side she cheated, or the other she was stupid enough to lie to me about cheating. Either way do i want to be with a girl who has either of those sides? I think not, though it tears at me to say so. Thanks for all your advice everyone, I think I just needed to hear it from somebody else
Honestly nobody anywhere, anyhow, anywhat can give you an answer like this. What you really have to do is do what you believe in and believe in what you do? If this is the girl you want to spend your life with, then go ahead. Enjoy. But if it isn't then no time like the present to find the one. Have fun! Edit: Chinese Girls play insane head games in my experiences, but the good thing is that they make it up other ways
You obviously don't know how to pick women. Honestly, do what you believe is right in your current situation. I am sure whatever conclusion you come to will bring you peace if it's brought about by what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do. It may be hard to let her go, but as you said, sometimes when you love someone that's what you need to do.
Well, she could have cheated on you and then told you, which would mean that she is a) a drunk, and b) very stupid or at least naïve. Or she could have made that up to see your reaction, which would make her a) a manipulative bitch, and b) very stupid or at least naïve. It's not precisely a win-win situation here.
for me i dont and i wont trust any girl at all.... What I can say to you let her go this is better for you and for her.
If you really love her, then you must get over those things that happened to her. True or not, forget about it. I know it's not easy but you have to. If you can't, then there's no reason for you to continue seeing her. Trust is the foundation of a relationship and without it, nothing will workout between you and your girl.
WOW. That sums it up clearly. Now man I would not give her a second chance to ruin my whole life. It is good that you are not married with her right now. But I can imagine that this feeling will go on and on even after the marriage. You will not be able to go to your office. Because in back of your mind there will be more doubts. From now on your mind will seek reasons to try and catch her. So this pain will never end. The best advice is to forget her and not ruin both of yours lives.
I think Shanghainese girls are reputed to be more games then the rest. Thats one reason most Shanghainese men tend to do the: cooking, cleaning, and of course maintain jobs. Not that I would have done that! I'm a bit too lazy to do much cooking, i tend to order food or eat out almost every day. Thats one of the big problems and it is totally true.
Hah, all girls are NOT players... as a matter of fact, I thought that moniker was a stigma attached to males
Girls and guys tend to play for different stakes, males for immediate satisfaction and the other for more long term comfort.
If you can't trust her then you will only make yourself and her miserable. Whether she lied or not, it is on you, and if you can't trust her it doesn't make any sense to continue as it will fail.