Many folks tend to think that only bad people have affairs or only people in bad relationships....but no one is immune from an affair. Monogamy is something most people say they believe in and want for themselves. Every survey ever done on this question shows a high percentage of people think monogamy is important to marriage and that affairs are wrong. Belief in monogamy, however, doesn't prevent large numbers of people from having extramarital affairs. Extra-marital affairs happen because on wishes to escape from the problems in a relationship. One would rather take the effort to understand oneself and the relationship for the marriage to work Most people don't intend to have an affair and most people don't think it will happen to them...... but it does. No one is immune from having affairs; they happen to all kinds of people, in all walks of life, everywhere. So do you think marital affairs are always wrong? I have always been dead opposed against them (until my best friend had one and I really saw her point of view) What's your point of you on having an affair?? Think before you speak. You are society inclined to say it's wrong, she should have left her husband first yada yada but it is easier to cast judgement than to put yourself in some elses shoes R u really happy in your life??
Marital affairs are always correct in the society. Otherwise you will be in trouble. The persons who are having good marital relation are always happy.
Wait you're complaining that you're husband is asking you for to much sex but you want to get a lover ? What is going on whit you ? TBQH marital affairs only happen when the guy is to weak or stupid to realize that his wife needs more weather that is more money , more attention , more romance , more sex etc . I don't agree whit marital affairs but i did had two married women so I guess they just happen when the pressure builds up .
this is cheat to your partner when we do extramarital affairs. what do you do if you get info that your life partner has engaged with another person.
Extra Marital affairs is nothing else but cheating on your partner. Your are dishonest to your mate and more importantly dishonest to YOURSELF
Apocalypse- Just because I post something doesn't mean I am talking about myself so your quote back is not on base. A good friend of mine is going through something and I was actually trying to see what other people think in order to give her better advice- No where in my quote did it say that I was looking for a lover so maybe you should read completely before giving feedback.
Didn't mean to offend you . I just took the info from the other thread and came up whit the conclusion . People that have trouble in their marriage tend to seek out relief and comfort in someone else . A simple honest comforting chat is sometimes worth more then anything .
I think you've been watching too much of your niche specialty........ Based on human behavior there are many reasons why people are cheaters. Most of the time it is because there is a problem and they do not have the guts to stand up and talk through the problem or make a life changing choice so they beat around the bush. Other times people just cheat because naturally they are not loyal. There is a rather high percentage of people who just cheat for the thrill of it. Yes they are. Even though I have not been married: Personally I can say that I have cheated 3 times in my life and if I were to go back in time I would do it again because I was fully justified.(<True story)
Yes, i think its okay. If you are not satisfied then you need only lover. Because some of men & women are addicted to sex, so to fullfill the enjoy its very necessary to make a lover.
Lacey Thank you for posting this. So many people just jump to say it's wrong, immoral etc and until my best friend experienced it, I may have said the same thing She is a great person, a good mother, a hard worker. She got married young and had kids at the age of 20- She is 30 now- She has grown quite successful over the years in the mortgage world and the more successful she got, the lazier her husband got. He took her for granted. She actually cheated with her former boss. They are both in the same profession, my friend is alot like myself, a very deep thinker, she is very social. The guy she cheated with (note: left her husband for) is the same. He was married also so they had quite a mess. They still do because they both have children etc. My friend never meant for it to happen but it did and everyone is downing her. Yes, she did it the wrong way but if it wasn't this guy, it would have just been someone else and I know for a fact that she has been telling her husband for years that she was unhappy. He didnt' care. She was making alot of money and he just took her for granted. now he is doing everything to get her back (including trying to make her feel guilty everyday) and it's too late, she's too numb but yet she feels so guilty because she cheated. I don't know how to make her feel better. It has been like a year now and she still can't bring herself to file for legal separation because she also has such a terrible fear of being alone (even though, that is crazy of her to think, she is beautiful, successful etc) but she fears being alone
Hey Apocalypse- No Offense taken ) I don't chat to have everyone agree with me LOL- That is the fun of chatting with people that don't know you, you can get unbiased advice. I actually posted this one though for one of my best friends who is going through this. She's not a tramp or anything like that. Sometimes life just happens, and why should you settle to be miserable the rest of your life?? She just went about it the wrong way and found what she thinks is her soul mate while she happened to be married :-(
Cheating is never ok but it happens. Never time you feel tempted, just remember its not ok and you run the risk of destroying your marriage.
Well that was golden - fully justified cheating - roflmao . Srsly there is no justification for cheating just like there is no justification for rape .
Apocalypse- OK- Now we have to draw the line here. There is a huge difference between cheating and rape !!! Seriously. Cheating is something you do willingly and whether it be moral or immoral, that is the choice of the person making the decision. Rape is a crime and a violation. The person being raped is not being given the decision to be raped. They are not being given the decision to give their body to another From the posts we exchanged, I would never have expected that post from you. Rape is a violation of someone and in no given form what we were talking about in this thread and in no way a conversation that I wanted started on this thread. Sorry but your reply to Lacey (who was giving an opinion based on circumstance) was unjustified dude
Ya I was exaggerating and using a shock word . I just didn't like the -fully justified- cheating thing so it knew the association will cause a explosion , unfortunately it hit the wrong person . Sorry about that . IMHO cheating is not about morality or even about needs sometimes , it happens when there is a desperate need that's not being fulfilled by your partner . But in no way is it -fully justified- if that was the case we would consider cheating normal just like some forms of revenge .
Now imagine if we lived in a realm where everyone was married to everyone else. It was common place for everyone to sleep with everyone. Free love. "marriage" as we know it today would be seen as wrong and "not ok". I'm sure most of the die hards here that say "NO! You should NEVER do it!" have cheated before, and probably still do. That doesnt just mean physically. How many times have you just "liked talking to someone" SO much that it became an emotional affair? Isn't it all in the mind anyways? I mean really, who is SOCIETY to tell ME whats right and wrong? (besides the obvious of course).. There are millions of couples out there that "swing" and sleep with different people all the time. I guess its all based on your prior brainwashing from society at large. This culture has placed too much importance on sex imho. I say, if it feels good, do it.. And invite your other half...
No, it is not good. its sneaky and dishonest and what they are all about.It is not good because it hurts others, it destroys marriages.