Many times in my life people that are (or were in most cases) close to me called me selfish. What is this all about? A long year friend said to me yesterday that I'm selfish because I refuse to act the way as he wants me to act. You know that feeling when you have to do something that you don't want, but you kinda have to do it because if you don't do it might hurt other person's feelings and they expect you to do it no matter what? Well I don't care that much if I hurt other person's feelings, although I realize it after some time and I feel guilty a bit. Anyway, I know that I'm a good person and a good friend but people can't realize that I find it so fake and so full of hypocrisy to do something against my will because society, friend, relative or girl expects me to do. If I don't do it, that doesn't mean that I don't care about the person or that I don't love the person because I think that caring is shown on some other way, rather than sacrificing yourself for good of the others. If I feel the need to sacrifice something for somebody sometimes I'll probably do it, like a errand of some kind, but I'm not gonna give everything for somebody, even if that person is close to me just because I'm supposed to do it and somebody expects me to do it. I consider myself rational and a person with character, but people see this as selfishness. So am I selfish? Do you have similar problems and are you selfish in this or in some other way?
People call me selfish as well. But I don't mind as I strongly believe in the saying... 'GOD helps only those, who help themselves!' Regards, RightMan
I have not met too many people that are not selfish honestly. I am not ashamed to belong to this majority
I always look out for myself first so yeah I'm selfish.. "Why let other peoples problem come first if you have your own?"
you are not selfish.. you can relax now.. your friend is selfish.. he/she tried to talk you into doing something you do not want to do.. for selfish reason... so you can stop worrying about it now..
tl;dr yes, Im SELFISH, but im trying to overcome it. Don't worry- every human is selfish, somewhere inside...so not a big deal
im not seflish at all infact im too accomodating and after reading your post its typical friends wanting you to be there way. ive had more than enough woman in my life trying to mould me into there perfect life sorry for the french but fuck you.
No i am not selfish because no one can take anything when they died so why become selfish and enjoy life with other.
I realized that thing also after reading article about it online. Selfish people are the ones that get mad if you refuse to do them a favor, or the ones that want you to behave in a certain way. How many times do I have to do something for somebody just in order not to argue with that person later. Anyway, sometimes we should do things for others that we don't want, but only sometimes. Many people make mistake between a selfish person and a person that is devoted to himself. Second one is trait of character and will. When I look at it, I was (I still might be I guess) selfish on that way, trying to make certain people act how I want, but I'm trying to overcome it.