What are the effects of forgiveness on you?

I see forgiveness as being freeing to the one forgiving. Sometimes it has no effect on the forgiven. Sometimes the forgiven doesn't even know.

But forgiveness is also freeing to the forgiven, when the forgiven is repentant and is remorseful for the action.

I have experienced both.

 

if you dont accept forgiveness , then why military in Afghanistan or in Iraq , if kills civilians, and after it , they asking for forgiveness ?

 

Who is asking for forgivness?

 

One example, Hillary Rodham Clinton, told sorry at the meeting with Hamid Karzai and from Pakistan Asıf Ali Zerdari , for hitting civils

 

I couldn't say it better! That is exactly what I experience too and see many others experience as well.

 

Saying sorry isn't asking for forgvness ziya. So again, who is "asking for forgivness"?

 

Hmm . It seems I was wrong . I have mixed "Sorry" , with " Asking Forgiveness"

But I found another history in Iraq :

Asking Forgiveness

 

Forgiving is the responsibility of a victim, saying sorry or confessing sin which includes turning away from doing wrong, the responsibility of an offender.
If both act responsibly then the relationship can be restored. If only one acts responsibly, (s)he is free inside, but the relationship is not restored.

 

Forgiveness sets the victim free - not the offender. An offender is only free when he or she has a complete life-style change based on "being sorry".

 

The more noble task is to ask forgiveness when you are wrong.

 

~ Forgiveness is neither here nor there but a solution for the anger within that is the assailants lasting intention. Nothing wrong with retribution replaced by love.

 

Do you mean "saying sorry for the wrong done"?