Girlfriend or Luxury?

Well, I'm happy for one thing now. In a matter of hours, it changed from being undecided, to joyful. She done the honours of leaving me and she is going to live with her parents and collecting her stuff tomorrow (Which I did pay for, including a $8,000 ring which I regret buying now). I shouldn't really smile at this, but I am because Koan, you are right. Women like that are like dictators, they complain when people aren't doing enough when they do nothing themselves, totally hypocritical.

Now, I am going to consider myself freelance of those problems. Maybe buy a nicer house (Currently in a $460,000 Detached) because of the less money I'll have to spend. My mind is also filled with ideas of not trying to get back with another girl, but that's probably just from the stress of the last one I've just separated from. Anyone here decided to go single forever - any good?

 

tell her to take a hike

 

The right girl is out there for you. Do you really need all the hassle of a relationship at the moment though? You have absolutely no control of how she behaves, you only have control of what you can achieve. So focus on the business side of things. If you meet another woman as well, don't let her get the idea that you're minted - make sure she sees you for the person you are and not for the wads of dablumes sitting in your back pocket.

 

I have but only recently, and only if I can not be with 'the one' it however is painful as hell, and again only recently so that does you no good

 

the thing is there a lot of girls who would love to be with a guy making what your making.

 

I'm sure they are, and those are the type of girls to avoid like the plague.

 

Somehow I doubt that would be exactly the same story if we heard it from her perspective. It's easy to get whatever you want to hear when you're talking specifically to your peers professionally. If you want honesty, you should be talking to people who know both of you.

If you're neglecting the relationship for work, then you do need to make compromises if you want that relationship to work out. All the money in the world won't make a real relationship work out. You need to find balance.

As for those criticizing because she's unemployed, seems awfully quick to judge. Hell, according to some folks I know, all of us working from home are unemployed because we don't have "real jobs." Who's to say she wasn't a stay at home mom for their kids if they had any? Or that she wasn't a full-time student? Or that she didn't just lose her job? Or that she didn't have savings to live on in the meantime? I'm not saying that's the case, but especially in this economy judging someone on a lack of a job is just idiotic. That alone was a silly point to bring up unless the OP wanted to intentionally put members against her from the start - again seems more like you want support for a decision you already made over an honest assessment of a situation. (and from your later post, seems like a decision on your part would be moot at this point anyway)

These days, I consider that daily. lol I get a kick when I hear guys talking about women wanting their money. I've yet to find a decent man who isn't perfectly happy spending mine. Just isn't worth the headache these days.

 

Half time on PC and half time accompany with her .
She would be happy.

 

After reading all the posts think for yourself and take a decesion because its your life..

 

JH Mattern = She's clearly waxing his credit cards!

 

Well bad news loniless is not good

I have extensive experience in being lonely .. but i'm still searching for a one girl that matters i even start to lie about what car i have i say rhem none even i own a 30 000 $ car ) or how i earn ..... such girls make me puke why to spend my money wanna se her loving me for what i am really ...

 

DUMp that chick go after another one you have $$

 

I think you have to choose your earning option first.

 

The only thing worse than a gold digger, is a gold digger that doesn't understand economics.
Send her out to get her nails done, and toss all her crap on the lawn while she's out.

 

Yep, ditch the girl, she's not worth having.

 

well we earn to keep our loved ones happy... Money is not everything.... we need someone who really cares for us...

So, i think you should not let your girl friend go off just like that.... you should sit with her and tell her your position and let her understand the situation...
Any problem can be solved, when we approach it in a right way....
so talk to her and make her understand....

 

where is the issue then, wow man you are inspirational with the..

 

People criticizes her because she's whining about *his* job while she doesn't even have one. She's in no position to do so, especially if he's successful during a time of recession. So many others are just trying to get by, yet she wants it all, money, his time and shiny things.

As for the rest, of course we don't know all the details and the OP may have some faults of his own (maybe he really neglects her), but since we don't know, we can only express our opinion based on the info in he gave us, and it's really not pretty.

I check his sig link and the OP is just 22. Still a kid with all his life ahead of him. Losing a girl is laughing matter, but she'll only be a little blip in his radar in a few years.

I wish I was doing 100K+ though

 

I agree at first glance with the other opinions above.

There are some things I am wondering. What are your age's?

Reason I ask is because she sounds a little young.

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if its your job her and she cant understand that people need money to survive then tell her to either get a job or get her own place and tell her how paying for everything isn't that easy without an income, especial without a job.