Please take me out of this psychological problem - Seriously Suffering.

Hi, from the last two years I am suffering from a serious psychological problem. Hoping a good and decent suggestion or advise from you people.
I was having no girl friend two years back and suddenly one girl proposed me, I could not refuse. I passed near about 2 months with him and do each and everything EXCEPT sex with her. Soon I got bore from that girl and left her saying that our nature does not match. Soon, I started realising that I committed a mistake because I had been habitual of such type of enjoyment then I eagerly started finding a new girl friend for me. I found a new girl in few days and did the same. That girl was amazingly beautiful and attracted me a lot that I got mad behind her. But soon once again after 1 month I lost my interest in that girl too. Now this process continued one after another girl friend.

My problem is now at this time is I get attracted to a girl very soon and do each and every effort to attract her. But when she come close to me I lose my interest soon in that girl and start searching a new one. My Mind is so much deviating. I feel restless and guilty everytime when I leave a girl.

Please take me out of this psychological problem. I want to be fair and loyal REALLY but I can not. I am expecting only some serious suggestions.
I am at 27 years now.

Thanks in advance

 

I was waiting for the "does my bum look big in this?" punchline

 

I could not understand the meaning. what does it mean...?

 

If you understand that you’ve a serious psychological problem for 2 yrs, then why not visit a doctor or psychologist? Better you consult a psychologist soon, and get proper treatment or advise.

 

Read the OP in this thread and you will know what I mean!

 

sounds like you're addicted to the "falling in love" part more than the actual day-to-day work of loving (oh, it's work.)

i recommend reading scott peck's "the road less travelled", there's a lot of good stuff in there. you could try talking to a counselor too.

but the thing is, no one can take you out of your situation other than yourself.

 

I think probably deep down you really know what you need to do.

What advice would YOU give to someone who asked you??

 

Rogi, you date a lot. Because of that, because you have known so many girl, I'm going to guess that you understand girls very very well? And because of that, it's easy for you to get to know a girl - and once you've figured her out - then the mystery is gone? And when there is nothing more to learn from her, you want to leave BECAUSE you become bored?

If you agree with the above paragraph, then let me ask you - tell me what type of girls do you date? How would you describe them to me?

 

He is trying to save money Recession everywhere

 

every thing that comes to you easily looses its charm and value . U are under the impresion and in a beleif that u can get whatever you desire. Your experimentation nature and may be looks are carrying you above what eve you get. You are restless and full of expectations and imaginations that you want to implement.

but it should not be the case. Thanxs at least you realise once the girl is gone that you missed something, but instead of correcting your mistake , you go on a new expedition of finding someone to implement your ideas and desires.

Stand in place of the girls you have left and feel the sufering , may be when someone does that you , you would realise better.

on the other hand -since you are looking for solutions--- i wld say you divert your mind to other activities and put more time on them and spend small time intervals with a girl. give her time and give time to yourself to establish and understand the relationships -rather then jumping to some conclusion in 1 month.

you need rest/ proper sleep and good friends to talk to , with whome you can speak your ideas out. stop experimenting.

 

MY situation is exactly what you have described. I get attracted to a girl just to findout about her nature and the things she does and her behaviour and when I come to know everything about her then the mystery is gone and I get bored? You caught me right. But what is the solution ?

On the other hand, type of girls?
I like those girls who are at the age of 19-23 and are studying. She may or may not be much beautiful but must be having an impressive personality and figure.

 

I THINK the reason is,

You haven't found the one that is suitable, destinied for you.

There must be a reason that causes you to leave them (your EXs), maybe their attitude, etc.

For each relationship, you get to know them better after some time (which is your "1 month")

You must have found their weakness/points that you dislike, so you leave her.

- ads2help

 

Sounds to me like you're looking for chemistry and not finding it, sometimes that chemistry takes a while to show itself and theres very few of us who ever do find what we are so desperately seeking. Maybe scale down your expectations a little bit?? Girls make great friends whether you have sex with them or not. I'm married and have never been unfaithful to my wife, but at the same time I'm friendly to almost every woman I meet (not in front of her) as I really enjoy being friends with them and getting a big smile and a warm Hello! when I run into one out in public, and remember, you can't change the way someone is, you can only change the way you see them yourself. Best of luck.

 

Ah, I understand, I really do! Hot girls are like robots, you just press the buttons and their behavior is shallow and totally predictable.
Predictable = boring.

Hot college girls with impressive figures, once you get past their "bitch shields" (filters out weak men), they want assertive "daddy" males. Once you demonstrate that confidence, they lose their personal initiative in the relationship. They want emotional intensity, or a man with quiet confidence. Once you give them that, they become boring. Because they ARE boring.

My strongest suggestion to you is that you start looking for girls in places other than the places you normally go to find girls. Look for girls that have graduated college and are out and about in the world - because the more diverse experiences they have had, the more interesting they will be to you!

My advice is to stay away from college bars. If you live near a city, try the bars near the financial district. Also, I've found that the diversity and complexity of a corporate environment makes girls more diverse in their interests and complex in their personalities. A girl with a fulfilling job is less likely to be clingy.

The most important quality I've found in a girl is the drive to Learn More About Everything.

(And stay away from any girl with more than two cats.)


Let me know if this looks helpful to you!

 

Well its not a mental problem its a different problem you are facing. Try to avoid frequent meet with you next girlfriend. Meet her once a week, maybe then your duration of having a girlfriend would extend.

Also I feel you may have not meet that someone special yet hence you keep changing your mind.

 

you are a playboy thats your problem

 

But I want to get out of this problem.... Soon...

 

Originally Posted by Rogi
I was having no girl friend two years back and suddenly one girl proposed me, I could not refuse. I passed near about 2 months with her and do each and everything EXCEPT sex with her.


That is a simple typo error...

Ha ha ha! Do not take it otherwise.

 

maybe those girls are really not that interesting?
if you discover "everything" about the girl so soon it sounds like they are not really interesting persons, they don't do new stuff etc etc...
your problem is that you can't find a girl that is interesting enough, so keep looking. I know it's depressing that feeling of emptiness but the only solution is to keep loking