Men can answer too but I'm curious as to what women think. When I hear grown women say they want a bad boy I can't believe they can say that with a straight face. Obviously unless they are pedophiles they actually mean a grown man but doesn't that mean they want a bad man? Is a woman who wants a bad man suffering from low self esteem? Do they feel they can't measure up with a good man? Are they just immature? Do they subconciously want an irresponsible partner? So they can feel superior? Be a victim?
Lol.. imo I don't think "Bad Boy" is suppose to be taken literally, probably someone who is very confident (not to the point of being egotistic though)... definitely not someone that is a criminal and such (imo again) Everyone's concept is different though.
He goes against all the rules. I don't know why he appeals to some women, I would think it's because the opposite is just plain boring, but as you said, if he's bad, he's going to hurt you too. (this type always appealed to me, no idea why, aside from the fact that the opposite is just plain boring to me.) And I don't mean bank robbing, gang banger types....
Some women think I'm a bad boy. Some think I'm a good person, which I am, I'm student of spirituality and how to be a good a person. I'm just amazed at how shallow some women in my life have been. 2 or 3 are really hot (er) for me now that I ride a really bad ass motorcycle and let different women ride on the back, I go out dancing alot with different women lately and so these old girlfriends are suddenly interested. I realized the little skanks see me as some kinda bad guy now so thier juices are flowin again. How friggin predictable is that? I have way too much faith in the female gender. I guess I could give them what they want but I need to be true to myself. On second thought I think I can do both......
Well my idea of a bad boy is someone who doesn't care about others, is irresponsible, maybe abusive, neglects his responsibilities towards his kids, his family etc. Basically what jails are full of. Which would explain why visiting day at jail is full of women and kids. (without fathers) Rule breakers deluxe. And I'm for sure talking about only some women (the eternal victims) and not all or even most. I think some women might even see me as a rule breaker. I might be too nice for some and too hard for others. Who knows I'm just me and have no need to change.
What about the guys that treats women the way women treat men. You know the guy that only has chick friends because he can't get along with other men. See how stupid that sounds ladies.
I believe that in society today most men have been conditioned by the media to be 'nice' in order to attract a female - you know, buy her dinner, give her flowers, say what she wants to hear, etc. As someone else said, to a women that is just plain boring but, unfortunately, 99.9% of men still act that way. That's why women they say they want a bad boy - someone who is unpredictable, has his own mind, offers excitement, doesn't kiss their arse. However, as we all now, what women say they want and what they really want just arn't the same thing - the bad boy will hurt them in time, that's why what they really need is someone in between the two extremes - someone who is confident and challenging whilst still being an inherently decent person.
You're spot on. As someone had said I spent time answering, in reality, the OP seemed to be asking a serious question, which you and I both took time to address properly instead of clowning around. I've also studied this very topic anyway. hmm, if a man said what I want to hear, I'd have to hurt him, a challenge is nice.
Well I am a woman and I am working on that success with women thing. Should I go after the good or bad ones?